"The Traditional Roles of Men & Women in Relationships".
After the honeymoon is over, the reception is complete, the cake has been eaten, there is a question that lingers, "Whose job is it to wash the darn dishes?"
I found an opinion of a blogger on this subject and have highlighted points throughout my blog.
The writer stated: "Times have changed. The opportunities available to women have changed. Even if the women's job is not more substantial than yours, you should still be negotiating a "fair" arrangement so that one person is not completely overwhelmed while the other person is reading the newspaper sipping on tea."
Riva says, "Amen, brother! Why should I go out, make the bacon, go to the grocery store and buy it, bring it home and fry it, AND then serve it too? And, on top of that, be expected to provide a scrumptous "desert" to follow later that evening? Guess what? I'll probably be too dag'on tired to provide such a tasty desert later, if you know what I mean!!!!!"
I think a real relationship takes a TEAM effort and there is no "I" in team. The best team has players who pick up the ball when and where the other player may be weak, tired, or injured, right?
The other writer also stated, "What I am saying is, don't expect every women you meet to automatically fulfill those traditional roles. It's a negotiation. I do believe that women tend to be better at certain things than men. I don't think most women would want to take care of the lawn or clean the gutters, or change a tire, or check the anti-freeze levels.
Riva says, "I don't know how to change a tire and unfortunately don't know where to put the anti-freeze, so in some aspects the brother's are MUCH stronger where strength is needed. Can you expect me to nurture and provide wise advice? Yes. Can you expect me to cook a good meal sometimes, bake you a cake or brownies AND clean the kitchen (dishes, only if I haven't worked that day)? Yes! I can do all those things, especially if I have the ENERGY! However, I think it's unfair for a man to expect a woman to fulfill a role or do things that may not be inherent or part of her design or makeup, like such things as doing an oil change. We're (women) lucky to have paid attention to know when we're supposed to have one done! lol
Later the writer stated, "So put all the cards on the table in the beginning of the relationship and divvy them up in a way that you are the most effective couple you can be. Renegotiations may be necessary as your situation changes. So if you're the better cook, don't torture yourself and the kids with her cooking, put the apron on and whip something up. In exchange, your wife better learn how to start the lawnmower. In the end, negotiate a fair deal for both sides or no one will be happy in the longrun."
Riva says, "I agree that relationships involve planning and negotiations that
aren't always "sexy". The business aspects of relationships aren't always "sexy" or glamorous but they ARE necessary and need to be addressed EARLY! When you do that, you minimize potential and sometimes unnecessary conflicts because you were too busy running around with the "rose-colored glasses on."
aren't always "sexy". The business aspects of relationships aren't always "sexy" or glamorous but they ARE necessary and need to be addressed EARLY! When you do that, you minimize potential and sometimes unnecessary conflicts because you were too busy running around with the "rose-colored glasses on." In closing, Lovin' ain't easy but Livin' is necessary! So, all of you who are involved in relationships and marriages, take a moment to re-evaluate your roles, expectations, and goals of one another. Fine-tune areas that may need tweaking and build on the good foundations that you have already layed.
Be blessed in your unions because real Agape takes very real work!
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